We, as women, are brought up to be nurturers, to take care of the competition. We are so good at reminding our spouse or ex, to call his mother on her birthday, get the great gift for his boss, and make sure he doesn’t just ignore his doctor appointments. We tell our children to believe
We, as women, are brought up to be nurturers, to take care of the competition.
We are so good at reminding our spouse or ex, to call his mother on her birthday, get the great gift for his boss, and make sure he doesn’t just ignore his doctor appointments. We tell our children to believe per, speak up for themselves and hold their head substantial. My question is, who does that for us?
As Empower women and Girls of all ages, we are taught to give and give, to nurture, love, in addition to protect. The other message we receive is that by positioning everyone else first we are being unselfish, and are seen as “good” mothers and partners. This is supposed to be positive. On the other hand, if we ask, “what about me? ” we are called egoistic and ungrateful. Well, I have news for you, ladies… that is not true, that is a lie that our society, ourselves included, include perpetuated. It is not selfish to take care of yourself, it is actually healthy. Along with the biggest lie ever, is to believe that you can empower children and have them feel self-confidant, when you deny yourselves often the care you need to nurture yourself. Children follow the example of what you are, how you act, and how you treat yourself, not what you say.
Substantial self-esteem and self-confidence, unfortunately does not come automatically having birth, it has to be taught by example or learned by life. Unless you were one of the few fortunate ones, who had mothers and fathers who knew and practiced unconditional love and help support, you were probably raised by parents, who did the most beneficial they could, coming from their own childhood of criticism and mental poison. How high was their self-esteem?
That is where confidence comes in. The time is NOW to work on feeling empowered. Many consult me, what do I mean by empowered? I am talking about self-confidence of course , but more than that, it is KNOWING that you can handle it. You may have the belief that whatever life throws at you, you will find a way to take care of it. You are resourceful. You are resilient. It is the opposite a sense of powerlessness, helplessness and completely contrary to feeling like a casualty or a martyr. It comes from learning to be self-confidant on account of living through the difficulties and challenges of life. You become not really a survivor, but also victorious and stronger.
Empowerment is one thing we all deserve to feel. It makes us redefine life. All of us start seeing obstacles as challenges. We see failures as finding out experiences, and fear of the unknown, which may have paralyzed us in the past, is now seen as just another obstacle to triumph over. Self-confidence gives us the determination and trust we can get through it. We now know, we have the skills, the functionality and the belief that nothing can stop us when we contain the intention to succeed.
In my private practice, my approach should be to encourage self-empowerment. I give my clients the tools to lift their self-esteem and show them how to do this. When they are experience empowered, depression disappears, anxiety decreases and self-esteem increases. It is more than just being positive, it is a knowing that you do use a choice, maybe not so much about what life sends to you, although how you choose to deal with your life challenges. That knowledge provides power and increases self-esteem.